I was lucky. I experienced making love with my first relationships. Only at the age of 28 was I introduced to the male practice of looking at women’s asses as they passed by on the street. I did not understand why, though I found myself doing it subsequently.

This course provides insights and practices on how to make love rather than have sex with your partner. It complements the Sustainable Relationships and focuses more on the psychology and spiritual elements around the physical act of sexual congress.

The lessons are divided into three parts:

• having sex or making love? mutual touch, sexual or sensual?
• looking beyond the body, through the person
• the source of love, the emergence of love
• (pathology of addiction, porn, power-games)

The lessons explore the experiential condition of sex, distinguishing sexual from sensual, active and passive within mutual action, the gift of giving pleasure, the energy which supports gentle to carnal with a kiss, caresses or copulation; the more subtle energies of bodily aesthetic, emotional engagement between people, and spiritual union; and the practices which generate love between people and preparation for increasing the potential of making love. Optional lesson on more risky forms of sexual congress, power-games, imaginative roleplay, the dangers of addiction to sex and porn and how to shift from addiction to sex or pornography.