My parents demonstrated a functional relationship. I was loved and cared for. My family root is strong. My older siblings did not have it so good; like many first born, they took the brunt of inadequacies and inequalities from first time parents.

I have had several long-term relationships in my twenties, and then formulated a new way of living with partners that would ensure a sustainable social framework for the rearing of children.

At my age, I am less concerned about relationships which are grounded on a sexual basis. I am willing to share what I learned through my life on how to maintain a strong relationship. These are:

• falling in love, external-internal timings, “timelessness”, don’t think about it
• men want babies need, women are not possessions, parting well
• lovemate, motherhood, possessionless males
• (pathology, what do you do when it goes wrong)

The first covers the experience of falling in love, the deep acceptance of other, four kinds of relational love (first love, mature, spiritual, intentional), the conditions to set up an unconditional, fully trusting relationship with other. The second takes a more sociological angle, about the drives which we experience and how we maintain our relationship. The third proposes new social contracts within a world with deteriorating family ties, increased atomisation of social relations, and how to create stable conditions for the rearing of children. An optional lesson offers advice on dealing with relationships which go wrong, emotional abuse and how to part well.

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